Monday, 3 December 2012

When Childhood Ends


The rain on the pavements
From a crack in the sky
The watery remnants
Of how you once cried
It drains through your being
Like the death of a friend
And I think you’ll find your childhood must end

I wrote those words more than twenty-five years ago. I was a young man then, still in my early twenties. To be honest, I’ve slightly changed one line as I decided my original attempt wasn’t good enough. I’m not sure that any of it’s particularly good anyway – including the melody I wrote for it (it’s a song) – but this is it, for what it’s worth.

There was a particular incident that prompted me to write those words. A work colleague of mine (a little older than me, but still a young man) had recently left our employer and taken up another position – his dream job! – elsewhere in the country. A few weeks after he left, the message came back that he had suffered a severe head injury in a road accident. I can’t remember for certain, but I think he may have been a pedestrian rather than a car-driver or passenger.

Over the coming days and weeks reports continued to filter back about his condition. Eventually the news came that he had died.

I’m sorry to say I can’t remember his name – this wasn’t quite the ‘death of a friend’ that I wrote about in my song. The truth is, this man hadn’t been an especially close friend of mine, but he had been a friendly, likeable colleague. Other colleagues of mine who had known him better and for longer were, of course, devastated.

This left me with the luxury – if you can call it a luxury – of being able to step back and reflect on what had happened in a way that the more deeply bereaved couldn’t. And so I thought about how a man of a similar age to myself had moved away to follow the career he wanted. This was a very positive thing, something to be celebrated. But in what seemed like no time at all, it was all over. He only got to experience his dream for a short time before his life came to a tragic end, his last few weeks lived in unconsciousness.

While pondering all this, I also thought of another young man I knew who had died a few years earlier (he had been slightly younger than me). His name was Chris. He was still in his teens when he lost his life to meningitis. Again, he wasn’t an especially close friend of mine, but he was a friend nonetheless (we went to the same youth club). Chris had been on my mind when I wrote some earlier verses –

Frozen water
Iced out, glassed out
Has melted, washed away

but he was still on my mind when I wrote the words about ‘rain on the pavements’ and ‘a crack in the sky’.

Is there a point to all this gloomy recollection? Well, yes. I think the point is that, one way or another, childhood and youth come to an end.  Innocence of endings comes to an end.  Such things can come to an end in sudden tragedy or they can just slip away gradually, almost unnoticed. Adulthood, if it is achieved, also comes to an end.

But a legacy remains from anything that comes to an end. For those of us who still live, legacies remain a part of our personal existence; for those of us who no longer live, legacies remain for others.

Given that endings cannot be avoided, maybe we should work harder to make those legacies good ones – challenging though that may be. Perhaps we can work towards discovering the childhood happiness that wasn’t known in life, while also celebrating and maintaining something of the childhood happiness that was.
____________

Delivered Unto Lions by David Austin is published by CheckPoint Press
ISBN 978-1-906628-21-5

For more information visit www.davidaustin.eu

No comments:

Post a Comment